Dear Annie: We were good friends until we got a place together

DEAR ANNIE: I feel like I’m in a toxic relationship with my roommate. We’re both older and used to be good friends until we got a place together. I quickly realized she has somewhat of a hoarding issue and a habit of starting projects she never finishes.

I work two jobs and am gone from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. or later. Meanwhile, she collects unemployment. On several occasions, I’ll come home to find the front room torn apart — boxes from the garage everywhere, or her closet contents sprawled across the floor. Sometimes she empties all the kitchen cupboards and drawers, then lies on the couch. Eventually, she puts everything back, but it’s all rearranged.

One night, I was loading the dishwasher after dinner, trying to think of a polite way to ask if she planned on doing her dirty…